and Trans-generational Healing
I HAVE FOUND MOST CONDITIONS IN THE BODY ORGINATE FROM A DISTURBANCE IN THE MIND OF THE INDIVIDUAL OR THE FAMILY MEMBERS
To address these issues I have found I have a particular gift for tuning into what the disturbances are. In this therapy I am drawing from the skills obtained by studying with Bert Hellinger a great Doctor and teacher of this therapy. I have found it to have many broad applications as I am able to read and sense the energetic needs and traumas associated with each problem which is presented to me.
This therapy is founded on the understanding of the desire to belong being inherent in all human beings. As individuals we act in accordance with the desires and norms of our groups in order to fit in and be accepted, sometimes no matter what the price. Our beliefs, and ultimately our actions, reflect this greater group consciousness. The Hellinger Approach helps us open our hearts in order to begin knowing a larger, yet more personal truth about the meaning of our existence within the context of these bigger more powerful influences the actions and energies of our groups have on our present situations. This helps us put things to rest and find peace with what we are experiencing.
The Hellinger Approach comes from a long tradition of systemic therapy, which looks at situations as a whole versus isolated incidents of wounding or pain. By viewing family situations in the context of a larger whole, we gain insights into the deeper reasons why things occur in a family: why individuals are pushed out, denied a place or not spoken of; and why behavioral patterns appear to repeat, often unconsciously, over generations. The family energy field or “family soul” as referred to by Bert Hellinger, serves as the basis for exploring and understanding relationships as well as eventually constructing solutions to issues that trouble our being. This family soul includes both the living and the dead and has a deep effect on the present generation.
The insights gained by coming into deeper contact with this family energy field enable a rebalancing of energies within the family. It is a way to work experientially on issues that affect us on multiple planes, including physical, emotional, and the deeper levels of consciousness. Leading us past societal ideas of morality to a holographic understanding of why events happen in the context of love and loyalty to the family, the Hellinger Approach enables deeper, soul-level healing to take place. This method looks at the patterns within the family energy field. Bert Hellinger calls these patterns “orders of love.” A few of these orders are that members of a family are bound together by a common conscience, everyone has the right to belong, gains and losses are balanced over generations and the solution to our presenting issue is always based in love.
By creating a picture of the family energy field in the form of a constellation, the Hellinger Approach encourages us to turn back toward the family of origin and gain strength in a new, healthier way. Knowing that we are deeply connected to our family soul, and that neither time nor distance can alter that, we are capable of exploring the complexities of our family’s past. Openly looking at our family of origin provides us with the opportunity to see the good and the bad, uncover secrets and truths, and investigate the lost and unexplained. By seeing these various components, we acknowledge deeper truths of our family soul, of the things that bind us together. When we look with open eyes, mind, and heart - void of moral judgment - we are capable of letting go of that which does not serve our personal growth. Most importantly, we learn to gain strength from a deeper conscious connection to the family soul that we are a part of. This strength feeds our soul’s development as we re-channel the psychic energy used to distance ourselves from the realities of our family of origin into more productive efforts. We can simply breathe and as Hellinger says, “acknowledge what is.”
What has been learned from working with family energy fields is that all groups have a collective consciousness, or greater soul, that has an unconscious influence on those in the group. A way of understanding this energetic phenomenon can come from looking at our connection and identification with the various groups we belong to. First and foremost, the strongest soul group we are attached to is our family of origin. After that, there is our connection to our heritage and the groups that represent our cultural background. These can include family religions, racial and ethnic backgrounds we were born into, the part of the country we live in and the nation or state we identify with. Each of these larger soul groups possesses a conscious and unconscious energetic influence on behavior.
Dr. Koger has personally undergone Family Constellation Therapy conducted by Bert Hellinger and facilitated this type of therapy for many individuals with family exclusion issues that often transcend the immediate family. Almost any situation where a death, divorce, separation, rigid/unavailable family member (could be due to medications, illness, personality, etc.) or “exclusion” has occurred within the family structure going back several generations warrants considering Family Constellation Therapy.
I have experienced clients be able to free themselves from diseases and traumas and move forward to achieve new levels of harmony and happiness. Trans-Generational healing can be used to uncover the source of chronic conditions and illnesses, identifying the key stress that is affecting normal healthy function. Additionally, this moving and powerful way of working can be used to examine the emotional factor connected to chronic conditions such as:
Cancer • HIV/AIDS • Multiple Sclerosis • ME (Chronic Fatigue Syndrome) • Anxiety
Insomnia • High Blood Pressure • Alcoholism • Drug Addictions • Pain • ADHD • Autism
In addition, if you have a child that suffers from hyperactivity, autism or any similar ailment, they too can benefit.
The basis of this healing work is that emotional stress is the main component of any and all illnesses. However, having said that we are very clear in our statement that this work is NOT intended to replace any treatment, diagnosis or therapy.
What is this method?
There are several methods available for a Family Constellation to be set up. A constellation is created where members of a group are asked to represent members of a family. Everyone is intuitively placed in a position, including an individual that takes the place of yourself whereby the family constellation comes to life. Those who represent family members begin to feel out the emotions, fears and desires of the persons concerned. Through this method disharmony comes to light. In a very remarkable and astounding way, the true story of the family is expressed and clearly seen for the 1st time.
Other methods are to use mats, objects or one person to sense these issues in the family. To make it available in a single person’s therapy session Dr. Koger stands in for family members and senses the energetic discord. As these souls are recognized they can begin to move towards integration and balance.
Each of us is connected to one another at the level of the Soul. We are all connected with one another through what has been commonly called the morphogenic field. This field literally connects us all telepathically to one another and is particularly true for a family. You are connected energetically and emotionally to your family for the entire period of your physical life, regardless of how much distance you may think you’ve created. With participation by those who ‘play’ the roles of others, the family constellation becomes a deep experience. Many people report recognizing situations they represent but are surprised at how intense the experience can be Irrespective of your age, each of us is a child, and what a child wants more than anything else is to find harmony within the family.
Structural Constellations may be used to look the major organs of the body such as: Kidneys, Liver, Lungs, Heart, Pancreas and so on and so forth.
Each of these organs works together in harmony in order to preserve the good functioning of the human organism. However, we have observed that the major organs in themselves carry and store memories and at times these memories are not even our own, but originate from the family system. For example, the trauma experienced by your ancestors could be stored in your kidneys leading to dysfunction in the entire system.
It is also possible to understand the meaning of other pains and suffering. This is the beginning of resolving them.